Frequently Asked Questions

Are you licensed to perform wedding ceremonies?

Yes, we are ordained ministers and wedding officiants in good standing and are licensed to perform weddings anywhere in the United States.

What is your affiliation or denomination?

We serve as non-denominational wedding ministers and officiants, allowing us to provide the most versatile service to our couples. We are comfortable in both religious and non-religious settings and acknowledge and welcome all faiths and beliefs.

How would you describe yourself as an officiant?

We both have over three decades of experience speaking to a variety of audiences of all sizes, from hundreds to small, intimate settings. We seek to connect with all personalities and make individuals feel comfortable and cared for. We also enjoy sharing in the moment with our audiences so that smiling and laughter can be a welcome part of the ceremony and all can truly enjoy themselves. The wishes of our couples are always top priority. We pay meticulous attention to all the little details to make sure your ceremony is just perfect, creating a celebration of love and togetherness. We are energetic, but also understand the need for calm, soothing, and as needed solemn. From years of experience we know how to manage the stresses of an event so everyone else can remain calm and focused on the moment’s impact. Knowing that you are looking for your dream ceremony we are patient and strive to help create that once in a lifetime event you deserve.

What types of ceremonies have you performed?

We have provided services to couples from all walks of life and from many areas of the country. This includes formal affairs to intimate elopements where it was just the bride and groom.

Additional ceremonies include: Renewals of wedding vows, commitment ceremonies, as well as situations where the bride and groom may have previously eloped and are already legally married, but want to have a formal wedding ceremony in front of their family and friends. This is a very common scenario for couples who are in the armed services. No worries… we are great at keeping a secret! Additionally we can perform short and sweet civil ceremonies, serious religious ceremonies, interfaith weddings that combine the traditions of several different faiths, and ceremonies that include children, just to name a few. Of course, the most popular is where the bride and groom want a lighthearted, customized ceremony that reflects their personalities with a touch of spirituality, grace, and humor.

How far in advance should we contact you about reserving our wedding date?

The further in advance that you contact us the better, however, we always welcome short notice and last-minute weddings and are happy to be of service if we are not already booked.

What are the steps to retaining you as our officiant?

First, simply fill out the Contact Us Form on our website, at which time we will be able to tell you if one of us is available to officiate your ceremony. If you do decide to retain us as your officiant, we require 1/2 payment in advance to “officially” reserve the date and time.

What if you aren’t available to officiate due to an unexpected emergency?

Although this has never happened, we can provide you with referrals to officiants who are similar to us in personality and approach. Since both Susan and I are ordained we are twice as likely to ensure this will not happen.

Do you offer wedding packages?

We provide a-la-carte services. You can personally select and design your own customized wedding package.  Please see our Officiating Services Page for more details.

How long is the wedding ceremony?

It’s completely up to you. Our average ceremony runs about 15-20 minutes but will depend a lot on what you would like to include. You are always welcome to include readings or songs done by friends or family members, special acts of celebration such as a Sand Ceremony or Rose Exchange, in which case, the ceremony would of course, be a bit longer. We are very much about our couples and are happy to create a ceremony that reflects the two of you.

Can we write our own vows?

Absolutely. Your vows are your words of love and commitment to each other and are one of the most important aspects of your ceremony.  We also have many examples of set vows that you may choose from.  A simple read and repeat can also be performed during this part of the ceremony.

Can we include our children in the ceremony?

Of course! There are a number of ways to include your children in your wedding ceremony. The Family Sand Ceremony is a wonderful and fun way to include your children, without putting too much pressure on them or making them feel awkward. You can also incorporate vows that you say to your children, committing to love them as their parents, and even present them with a gift like a necklace, ring, or bracelet.

What do you usually say during the ceremony?

There are a number of ceremonies and vows to choose from, which are featured in our Ceremony and Vows packet. We don’t have any specific requirements on what needs to be said during the ceremony. That is completely up to the two of you. We have all heard horror stories about officiants who felt compelled to use the couple’s ceremony as a forum to express their own opinions or beliefs, much to the bride and groom’s shock and surprise. If you retain us as your officiant, you can be assured that your ceremony will be exactly the way you want it. We stick to the script that we have chosen which will help you relax and thoroughly enjoy your day.

What do you usually wear at the ceremony?

Our wardrobe varies, depending on the location and weather. However, we always dress neatly and conservatively, typically in black so as not to detract from the two of you. If needed we can don a formal attire for a more formal wedding ceremony, or a white linen shirt and khaki pants or linen dress for a more casual beach wedding. If you are having a bit of a theme for your wedding, we will make every effort to adjust our wardrobe accordingly (i.e. a Hawaiian wedding, beach wedding, western, etc.). Just let us know what your desires may be for our wardrobe for your day.

What about the rehearsal?

Our attendance at your rehearsal, although commonly requested, is not required. Our role is very straightforward. For more formal weddings, the wedding coordinator at your venue or even our day-of planner can take care of getting everyone in place and ready to walk down the aisle. Beach weddings or small elopements do not require a rehearsal, due to their more casual approach. We will arrive at your ceremony one hour prior so we can take care of any last minute details or direction that needs to be made.

Where and when do we purchase our Marriage License?

You must obtain your Marriage License at any County Clerk’s office in the county and state that you desire to get married. Simply research contact numbers for your county that you desire to be married in and investigate any necessary information on costs and processes for obtaining your marriage license. Each state is different, so please make sure you understand the requirements of your state.  You can usually start this process about 60 days out from the ceremony date.

It is your wedding, your dream, your way!